Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Tooie's Obituary

Tooie's Obituary ran this past Sunday in The Capital (Annapolis' local paper):

KNOWER, STEWART BROOKS Stewart B. Knower, 76, of Annapolis, died August 24 at Anne Arundel Medical Center. Born in Birmingham, Alabama, June 3, 1934, he spent his childhood next to the St. John's River in Jacksonville, Florida. Although he was a champion horseman in his youth, being on the water in a boat was his lifelong love. A few years after his 1956 graduation from Princeton, he and some friends took a long summer cruise on his boat, "Gemini". They took a few hand guns along and were duly arrested on gunrunning charges when they stopped at Cuba. Stewart's mug shot appeared on the front pages of newspapers across Cuba; they were released shortly afterward, but Mr. Knower sent a copy of his photo whenever Princeton wrote asking for his news.

Mr. Knower's real-estate career was spent in Loudoun County, Virginia, and later the greater Washington area. His clientele included such people as Arthur Godfrey, who became a friend, Rudolf Nureyev, and Dr. Henry Heimlich. While president of the Northern Virginia chapter of the Virginia Museum of Fine Arts in the 1960s, he engineered the rescue of the Alexandria Lyceum; it is now known as Alexandria's History Museum. He loved to travel, and the combination of his broad knowledge of architecture, history, and geography made trips with him a great pleasure. Stewart was a passionate advocate for environmentally sound development for more than 40 years, and was still working toward a better balance between man and earth when he died.

He is survived by his wife of 26 years, Kathleen Freeland, his stepchildren Sarah, Renny and Jennifer Babiarz and their families, his sister Brooks Riley, and his sister-in-law Rosemary Knower and her children.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to St. Anne's Episcopal Church, where he was a member of the vestry. Donation checks should be made out to St. Anne's with Mr. Knower's name on the memo line and sent to: St. Anne's Church, 199 Duke of Gloucester Street, Annapolis, MD 21401.

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Stewart at Peace

We buried Stewart's ashes on the grounds of St. Anne's church in Annapolis, MD on Friday, August 27th. We hope he is at peace; we think he is at peace.








Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Voyage of the Gemini, 1959

We found this note among Tooie's belongings:

Voyage of the Gemini, 1959

Crew:
Stewart Knower
Jack Seas (underwater demolition)
Peter Dawson ("Spike")
Ken Culbert
Phil Brooks

(eds. note: Bilgewater?)

Donations In Tooie's Name

In lieu of flowers, our family would like to honor Stewart with donations made to St. Anne's Episcopal Parish, where he was a member of the vestry. Donations should be written out to St. Anne's and include the following information on the memo line: "All-Saints Memorial Garden - Stewart Knower". Thank you so much for your support during this difficult time.


The address for St. Anne's is:

St. Anne's Parish
199 Duke of Gloucester Street
Annapolis, MD 21401

Bilgewater

Tooie's sister Brooks wanted to share some thoughts with us, including stories about Bilgewater. Tooie loved Brooks very much and was so proud of all of her accomplishments; he bragged about her all the time. Without further ado:

I remember Bilgewater well, a Siamese cat who always sailed with Tooie. Tooie once took me and a few of my classmates on a day sail along the Potomac. 'Bilge' was there too, soaking up all the attention.

When Tooie lived in Washington, I spent a night on his couch. The next morning, I woke up to the feathery tickle of whiskers on my cheek. When I opened my eyes, there was Bilge, nose to nose with me, a feline wake-up call.

I have a vague memory of how Bilgewater got his name: When Tooie pumped out the bilgewater from the boat, Bilge would rush over to the the side of the boat to watch, somehow fascinated.

The Johanna I remember was a small black cat that had belonged to our Aunt Olive.

About your day at the beach last weekend, when I spoke to Tooie on Tuesday, he told me about the family get-together with such delight, in spite of the weather, in spite of the late start. He loved his family so much, was so proud and happy to be with them. I think his role as pater familias is the one he loved best, and I'm so glad that he had a chance to see all of you together again. I wish I could have been there too.

Brooks

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Martinis

Gin, a spoon of bourbon, and two olives. Here's to you Tooie, we love you.

Some administrative issues: I opened comments for everyone. Also, please feel free to become an author of this blog. Let me or Jenn know if you want to do that since I need to invite you by email (and you have to register with Google I think). If you don't want to do that then just send us your writing and we'll post it ourselves. I know Brooks has percolating a Bilgewater story or two that I want to read.

And now a word about services upcoming. Per Tooie's wishes we are not having a funeral. Instead, we will be interring Tooie's ashes at his church privately later this week. We then plan to have a large remembrance gathering in two to three weeks for everyone who wants to come.

Today left us shaken. We saw difficult things. But we believe that Tooie was ready. It is the end of more than a life, it is the end of a way of living in the world with another person. Everything, especially everything in Annapolis, looks different to me now.

Love!

Buster

Buster is a baby-faced cat with giant paws who loves his people. As a morning greeting, he's known to pirouette with excitement. He also gets excited and falls down the stairs a lot. Tooie and he shared a similar zest for life.

Tooie died this morning at 8am with my Mom at his side. We're sad but at peace with his death. His interring will be held privately later this week, and then Renny and I will let you know further plans to celebrate Tooie's life as they are made.

Thank you so much for your loving thoughts.

Much love,

Jenn, Renny and Kathleen